Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Happy Birthday to Me!!


Today, 27th April is my birthday! Thank You Allah for the wonderful life You have Given me and the beautiful people around me who make my life a happy adventure. Yes, I went through some bitter moments along the way but You Held my hand and Helped me through it and Made it as if it never happened before. I am thankful to You, in every breath I take and in every moments of my life. I pray so that You will Guide me and never let me astray from the correct path. I promise, I will give back as much as or even more the love I received, back to the people who love me. Please, Bless them all and Give them happiness in this life and in their life thereafter. Coz, they have done the same to me in my life.

Mama and Wan, thank you is not enough. I don't know what and how to say but million thanks (also little) for everything you both had done to make me who I am now. I won't be an optimistic, affectionate, cheerful, courageous, determined, perseveres, enthusiastic, forgiving, high self-esteem, happy and have all the positive traits I have in me now, if its not because of you both. You taught me well and even still teaching me till now. Your prayers always be with me (I know it). Your help is always a call away. The abundance of love you showered me, made me a person who is full of love and care for others. I hope you both feel my love to you too. Even though I am not with you now, I know that I left you both in good hands of Allah. I pray for your heath, happiness and joy in life and be Blessed forever. And I will not stop praying for you till the end of my life.. insyaAllah... Again, thank you for everything, even by saying it not enough to express how I feel.

My Honey and Dotter... you both are my everything! Without you, I have nothing. Your love and your presence in my life made my soul a happy spirit. What else can I say... May we be happy always in abundance of love, health, wealth and laughter. I love you both.

My families.... you are a group of fantastic, great and outstanding people! Without you all, I won't be where I am now. My life is cheerful. My life is colourful. My life is meaningful. All because you are in it. Thank you everybody for being so wonderful! I love you all!

My friends and buddies. Well.. well... the important elements in my life. Without you guys, my life will be a puzzle with missing pieces. We walk through life experience together and we learned along the way that true friends and buddies are hard to find and I am delightful to find you all, along my life journey. Thank you so much to be there and shared the nostalgic moments of my life with me. May you be Blessed too! Everyone of you is special to me and has the special seating in my heart (even in the priority First Class seat...). I appreciate our friendship and always pray that the friendship will bring us all to heaven! (Have you heard the story before? If not, please ask Mama to tell you.. heee hee). I love you all too!!

Last but not least, thank you to all that passed by my life and leave strokes of colours on my life canvas. They made my life colourful and cheerful. An abstract with its own beauty. Thank you.

Finally, my special prayers on my birthday... God, please take away all the sorrow in the people's heart I mentioned above and filled it with joy, love and happiness. Make their life easy and Blessed them with miracles, whenever they need it (in pharmacy language: PRN). Please Love them like they love me and protect them from the hatred and hasad of other people. Ameen.

Happy Birthday to Me and May Allah Bless us always!!

This song is for you!




Thursday, April 21, 2011

My Trip to Maturity - Teenager... The Notty Professor!


I stood in front of the mirror.. Looking at myself trying the secondary school uniform.. Yessss!! Light blue.. no more navy blue... I am going to enter the big people's school tomorrow!! "This is gonna be fun!!".. I thought to myself.. Felt quite excited about growing up and moving on to the next level of life.... "I'm gonna rock high school and make a lot of friends!!..... and my friends are gonna enjoy my company! Here I comeee!!!" and I doze off with the new school uniform. How easy it was to make me so excited then.. just the new high school uniform.. nothing else... Huh.. kid! What do you expect? I wish it is as easy to excite me now too...

Remember in my previous post, I mentioned that my clothes were only shorts and t-shirts? Aha... now, no more.. more decent... but NEVER skirt or gown or blouse... just changed from shorts to long-pants or jeans and maintain with the t-shirts... Oh yes... still tom-boy, with short hair and still with a lot of adventurous acts... My teenager-hood family buddies a.k.a. kamceng were my aunty, Cik Sue and my cousins, Kak Ja and Abele.. They played their own role in my life and we did some things together-gether... which some will be revealed in this post. Just keep on reading... Oh, not to forget, I had a group of badminton buddies too... they were Kak Sin and gang: Alex, Najib and Tall Bald Guy (I can't recall his name!). We used to play badminton together in front of Ayah Tok's house. That's how I got my badminton playing skills coz since teenager, I played badminton with boys and they were not bad badminton buddies, not bad at all....

Talking about Ayah Tok... Mama's late father (m.p.b.u.h.). I was very closed to him. I used to play in his house and sit with him and chit chat with him all the time. He used to tell me jokes, stories, riddles and his experience in handling his business.. What strategies he used and the lessons he learned. I got a few business tips from him. I love talking to him and I love him so much. I miss him dearly.... Being a playful girl.. I still remember, he was not an exceptional from my teasers... and how I teased him one night... the story goes like this... Our houses are just walking distance from each other and so as Mamalong's (Mama's eldest sister) house. It was our daily routine that every afternoon, before dusk, Mama and Me, will go and visit either Ayah Tok's or Mamalong's house and we will sit until sunset, and chit-chat and of course munch-munch (makan laaa). Cik Ma (Father Yee) and Cik Yah (Father Brother) sometimes join the club. They were great host and Mamalong is still a great host till now. Ayah Tok's referred Mama as 'Mek Ghoghib' coz we always arrive late, near Maghrib. So, that day, we visited Mamalong's house and so happened that Ayah Tok was not there yet. They asked me to go to his house and called him to come to join everybody in Mamalong's house. It was dusk. So, naughty me got an idea. I put talcum powder all over my face, just like in Seniman Bujang Lapok, totally white, and went to ring his (Ayah Tok) door bell. I just stood still in front of his door, didn't move a single muscle. When he opened the door, he was so shock to see the 'lembaga' in front of his house during dusk that his reaction was.. "Al-Faaaatiiihahhh!!" and he started to recite the holy quran and blow it on my face... ngeeheee.... Luckily I didn't cause any harm to his heart. He was very close to his grandsons/daughters and we all love him very dearly. He was a heavy smoker. During his sick days, he was asked by Dr Nawi not to smoke anymore but he thief-thief-ly (curi-curi...) smoked a few cigarettes a day and when he was caught doing so, he will say "Alooh, lembu tok hisap rokok pun mati jugok"... He left us since 1987 but he never leaves our heart!! He left us a legacy, the respected family name, HAMSHI and we the descendants are upholding it with pride and dignity! We love and miss you Ayah Tok!

It was my kinda thing, being a 'ghost'. Ayah Tok was not my only victim. Another naughty act of mine happened in our house and the victim was Isham, my kazen - Sham, if I haven't told you before, I am so sorry Sham, sooo sorry! Riz was my accomplice. One midnight, I asked Riz to call Isham saying that I need help. At that time, Isham was downstairs and I was upstairs. I waited at the edge of the stairs (upstairs), wearing all white (praying set) and again, put talcum powder on my face and made it all white. I just stood there and didn't move (PLEASE DON'T DO THIS AT HOME!!). Isham came running from downstairs and a few stairs before he reached me, he saw me and suddenly, kelepuk, like a jelly, he felt down on his bum while his fingers pointed at me. He was totally white.. as white as me! It was soo funny for me then... but not for him. Oh my.. Suddenly I feel so bad for doing that to him. I am so sorry Sham, I regret it. Isham is now a successful PLUS Engineer and a proud father of four living with his beautiful soulmate, Lily beside him.

Ok, back to my story. As I expected, secondary school was sooo much fun. I became the joker and the story teller in my class. From form 1 to 3, I was in the Commerce (perdagangan ?) class. My classmates were Wan Rusmini (a doctor now), Wan Razanah (also a doctor), Asrenee (a psychiatrist), Jani (a lawyer), Maznizan (MBA holder), Anuja (an engineer), Wan Haslindawani (a pathologist), Lily Suzlini (a marketing scholar), Lily Juliani (a teacher), Norazlin (a chemistry teacher), Norashikeen (an IT consultant), Wan Saridah (a housewife), Yap Ean Nee (an architect), Nik Ruziani (a psychiatrist) and many more..... All my classmates turned out to be professionals and successful in their life, meaning that I was not a bad influence huh (?? tak ada kena-mengena??). Back then, whenever teacher was not in the class, everybody will gather in a circle around me, at the back of the class and I will be the story teller.. telling jokes and stories to them. I am sure that my friends still remember this! Even now, whenever we meet, I will still be their story teller but the difference is that, their kids will also gather around me and enjoy my story telling... Too bad now, I don't have anybody to tell stories anymore because I am far-far away from everyone! How I miss talking to people, in my mother's tongue... Hu hu hu....

Anyway, I was neither the bad nor the best student (humble....). But I was selected to represent school in the Science and Maths Quiz team. Something funny happened during the challenge. Our school team won the first few rounds until we represented KB district and was against PM district, to fight for the State seat. I was on the hot seat. Didn't I mention before, I have Social Phobia? Well, scroll down to the previous post if you have no idea what am I talking about. Anyway, my phobia and my nerves decided to strike during the critical challenge. It was my turn to answer the quiz and it was a tie between us and the PM team. So, our victory depends on my correct answer to the quiz. I could feel the high pressure... furthermore ZS (my school) being one of the top school in the State, everybody was expecting our team to win. The question was "What is the biggest bird in the world?"... My sweat started to fall all over my face and my nerves were killing me (damn you nerve!!)... I was totally blackout and my nerves were controlling me... I have 5 seconds left to give the correct answer.. I pressed the buzzer... trying to be as confident as I could.... "GARUDA!", I answered.... suddenly, there were silent in the room, it was so still you could hear a pin drop.... but at that instant, the whole room burst out so loudly like there was a bomb dropped in the room...... "HUARGGHHHH.... HAAAA HAAAAA...... GARUDA.... HAHAHAHAHA... WARGHHHH... WARGH......".. everybody laughed their guts out to my answer... and of course, we lost the battle........ sorry guys!! Hahaha! I still laugh whenever I remember that incident! Seriously, GARUDA??? What was I thinking???? Eagle or Chicken would be a better answer!! Do you know what is the biggest bird in the world??? Heheh...

My sweetest memory with my form 3 friends was our Dikir Barat performance during the teacher's day. Me and Jani were the choreographer cum the Tukang Karut and Tok Jogha for that act. My friends will remember that and we captured the video which I still keep it till now. The show was a hit that the school requested us to perform again the next year. It was a very sweet memory which is kept tightly in our nostalgic events of life collections.

There was an April Fool trick that I put on my friend and want to share with you guys. It was 1st of April and its April Fool day guys! So, I approached one of my friends (my victim).. OK, before that, our school was girls only school, ZS, and our neighboring school was boys only school, SIC. Back to my story, I approached my friend and told her ... "Mc XX, your name is written everywhere in the SIC school washrooms!!" and she went ..."Err...Why??" .... I explained (with innocent face) "You know, that day, you were sitting in front of your house wearing skirt, and you were unaware that you exposed your torn red panty. Coincidently, one of the SIC boys passed in front of your house and saw that! And he knows you. So now, he told his friends about you and they wrote the graffiti all over in their school washrooms that 'Miss XX wore torn red panty'!!" ....... And my friend left me running to the washroom crying.... and I guess she didn't hear me shouted, "Hey! April Fool!!!"...... Mannn.. I didn't realize that I was that notty!!

During my school years, I was not a bookworm. I didn't actually read books a lot. My style was to concentrate in the classroom and make sure to understand whatever the teacher taught us and approached teacher with questions if I didn't understand any of the topics. I am also a last minute 'study pulun' person, which this habit followed me till the university. One of the reason was that, Mama will scold me if she saw me with books all the time. She will say "Study wak gapo gak Dek, nyo pah lah tu!".. So, as a good daughter, I listened to her. Therefore, I seldom study at home... huhu... But I master the past years questions. I did as many questions as my hands could lay on it. I remember once, one of the past years mathematic questions book had a few wrong answers and I detected it. So, I wrote to the STAR newspaper editor complaining about that and mentioning why it was wrong. They published my letter and a while later, the Publisher contacted me to say thank you! I have a very good relationship with the teachers. They all know me well and I am sure they still remember me, the notty but 'not bad' (humble again) student. Well, talking about being naughty, the teachers were also my victim. I once, locked my English teacher (late Cikgu Satimah, m.p.b.u.h) in the tuition centre for a while and she called me "Jepun zalim!!" for that... Well, I didn't actually left her there, I just locked her for less than five minutes and I opened the lock after that... Gurau jah... huhuhu... But she knew that I was just joking and being naughty. She knew me well... Even the most fierce teacher was my friend. I don't know why, I didn't get scolded by the teachers. Maybe because I did all my home-works on-time, scored well in all exams and concentrate during classes, despite of being playful and notty. Well, I guess they were happy with me coz I got all As for the SRP (PMR now) exam...

After SRP, we all move on into the real high-school, form 4. Because of the different results we got for the SRP, all of us (me and friends) were separated into different classes. Me, Dr Rusmini, Dr Asrenee, Dr Wan Razanah, Dr Wan Haslindawani and a few others were in 4 Science 1. Jani, Maznizan, Norazlin and a few others in 4 Science 2 and Lily and a few others in 4 Science 3. I really missed my friends and want them to be with me, especially my best buddy, Jani (she is still my best buddy till now!). So much so, during the classes, when I was bored and missed Jani, sometimes I asked permission from my teacher to go and see Jani in her class, saying that I have "Mugo" to tell her. So, I went to Jani's class, asked for Jani and when she came to me, I just whispered in her ear, "Mugo!" and then I went back to my class. That's all. My bench-side buddy was always Dr Rusmini. We sat beside each other every year. I remember, one day, I was very sleepy during Geography and it was not my favourite subject. The teacher was our HM (head-mistress), Pn Hasnah. Everybody was afraid of HM. But she was always nice to me. I couldn't open my eyes because I was sooo sleepy. So, I put my head down on the table trying to sleep and I told my partner, Dr Rusmini, if HM ask, tell HM that I have headache. Fair enough, HM came to my table and asked my partner, why is she (me) sleeping and she answered as I asked her to tell, that I have headache. So, quietly, HM said "Ok.. let her sleep.. don't disturb her! Class, let's not be too loud because Zie is having headache..!".. heheheh... so I doze off..... Zzzzzz....

After enjoying the honeymoon year, in form 4, I was more serious in my study during form 5 coz this was the SPM year... the important exam which can lead my future... I would like to thank Cikgu Illani for helping me and giving me extra classes in her own house to make sure I understand the chemistry and additional mathematics subjects which I had problems understanding it. She taught me tirelessly until I really understand all the lessons. Thanks a lot Cikgu Illani. Anyway, knowing my character, the most I did was that I just gave better attention in class. I am who I am. I can't suddenly transform into a nerd or a bookworm. This year, I was elected as the President of Badminton Club and represent school in single and doubles (Jani was my partner) and was quite active. When I exactly turned 17, I got my driving license and drove myself to school everyday with my blue Proton Saga Aeroback, DR 2141, a birthday present for my 16th birthday. I sometimes was late for school, very late, like 1 hour late... But I know really well how to camouflage it. What I did was, I will look at the timetable and waited for the teacher to change between subjects. I will arrive school exactly at that time, send my school bag through the broken window, at the back of our class to my classmate who sat there. Then, I will wait for the teacher to change and I will walk in the class through the front door, as if that I just came from the washroom. Got it??? Sneaky rite?? Well I got away all the times without being caught!!

I love my DR2141 so much! I enjoyed driving it. I remember how crazy I was in modifying the car. Initially, I equipped it with power-amp, sub-woofer and 10 + 2 speakers and twitters connected to a powerful player. That made the riding experience superb as if as you were in a concert. Later, I made it more sporty in its look by cutting short the two front tires springs and changed all of the rims into sport rims with wider and lower tires. This made the car lower. I also tinted dark all the windows. Then I made it more powerful by changing the exhaust system to a 4-2-1 and attached to a sporty exhaust. The sound it made when I press the gas paddle was like so 'merdu', I just loooovee it!!!.... Vrrroooommm.... vrooommmm... Well guys, it was in the 80's and that was the mode back then, modifying a Proton Saga to a Porsche!! What do you expect?? Anyway, this attracted the boys, Zarul, Mat Din, the boy with a BMW, etc. in my tuition class to race with me. So, whenever I went to the extra class, after class, we went chasing each other in town. Sometimes I won, sometimes they won. But above all, me and my girl-friends had so much fun! But well, of course Wan and Mama didn't know about this until this point, until they read this post! I hope my daughter won't repeat this act of mine... huhuuhuu.... I was the owner of this car for 6 years until I sold it when I was in the 3rd year of university.

My out of school activities were also interesting. Me, Abele, Jani and Lily used to go picnic at Kebun Pok Teh. Sometimes Cik Sue and Kak Ja followed. It's a small orchard with a few fruit trees and a small river. Whenever the fruit was in season, we went there to pick the fruits and sometimes we picnic at the river bank.. dived in the river... built raft from banana tree stem.. cooked maggi mee using fire which we made from dry tree branch... while at the same time enjoying the fruits... ala-ala kampung gituww... Just like kampung kids.. huhuhu... While other girls enjoyed playing with dolls and soft toys, I enjoyed playing with the bamboo gun which I made myself from scratch, gin rummy and black jack... Remember everyone (to whom it may concern)?? How we played black jack? Where we use rubber bands to replace money.. and how I won a lot of it!! I am sure you still remember all that!! Also we played gin, stayed up at night and didn't sleep till morning.. I still remember and it was so much fun!!!

Talking about bamboo.... I will definitely not forget an incident.... It was during fasting month, near Eidul Fitri. Have you heard about 'meriam buluh'??? Its a kind of cannon, made from big bamboo. Where one end you put the wick to light it and you put a mixture of explosive things inside the bamboo. So, when you lit the wick, the 'meriam buluh' suppose to give a big explosive sound. Ok, so, this 'meriam buluh' thinging was Kak Sin's job. I remember that he just got married and his wife, Kak Nor worked in Klinik Pancho. Kak Nor worked night shift that day and she already told Kak Sin not to play with the 'meriam buluh'. But Kak Sin thought it was going to be fun. So, he still set the cannon, put it facing the main road and lit the wick... but it went off half-way.. So, Kak Sin went to see, and all of the sudden, it lit back and KKKAAAABOOOMMMM!!!! It exploded on Kak Sin's face!!! His face turn black like a charcoal but luckily, just that, no injuries at other part of his body... Me, as the Notty Professor got an idea. I called Kak Nor, "Did you hear the explosive sound?" and she answered "yes! it was very loud (her work place was just across the street from our house)!! What was that??" and I said "It was Kak Sin and his 'meriam buluh'! It exploded on his face and now he is injured everywhere, his face, his head, his body.. bla bla bla... You should come and see him!". As soon as I hang up the call, I set up the stage. I asked Kak Sin to go to his room, sit on the bed and mummified him with bandage and put some fake blood (I always have this in stock!) on it. He looked so 'kecemasan'!!. And I asked JJ to sit beside him with a very sad face... (Good job JJ!). Poor Kak Nor came running home from work... and when she entered the room and saw Kak Sin. she cried.. "Siiinnn...!!!" and me and JJ left the room, leaving them to have alone time together and we closed the door... I din't know what happened after that... "Tum pase ayee... yoo muskudayee... kuche kuche ho ta hai..."

I enjoyed going outings with my BFF.. Jani and Lily. We, a few times went to KL together and slept in my aunty's house, Cik Nah or Cik Awi or Cik Nor. We had sleep overs, where most of the time, they came to sleep in my house. We supposed to study in a group revising the lessons. But that never happened. We ended up playing gin or watch videos. I remember once, we went outing to KB town. We ride on the trishaw where Me and Lily sat on the seat and Jani had to sit down. I pity the old guy who cycled the trishaw.. It must have been difficult for him to move the trishaw with three of us sitting in it.. He did say "Matilah pokcik kalu kena gateh lagu ni hari-hari mek!!".... huhuhu... That day also, Jani's sandal was broken and I suggested a brilliant idea to her that to cover her feet (the side which the sandal was broken) with 'plastik gelenya, a.k.a. plastik rok-rak'. So, we ended up attracting attention a lot people on the street with the new sandal model....

After all the hard work (really?)... I successfully completed my high-school and my SPM results were good enough to bring me to my new adventure... the university life!! I got accepted to do Matriculation in USM. Wooohooo!!!Here I come!!!!!




Friday, April 15, 2011

Me Needs a Break...

Me, needs a break now... Let's listen to my favourite motivation song to boost up our spirit... Enjoy!!

Sunday, April 10, 2011

My Ambition and My Adventure to the PhD Land, and the Lessons Learned Along the Way


I have a dream! I have a dream!! I have a dream!!! Hrrmmmm... not going to use that phrase... too familiar (kudos to Martin Luther King, Jr.!). But never-mind. I loike to use it. After all, I already acknowledged him. So, no plagiarism issue involved here... When I was 15, I decided that I want to be a Doctor, a psychiatrist. Yes! That was my childhood ambition. I want to be a psychiatrist. That was when I was 15. Let's see... more than 20 years later (am I that old?).. am I a psychiatrist now? Nope (my friend Dr Asrenee is)! But I did exactly what I wanted to do if I were to be a psychiatrist. I am very satisfied and happy with where I am and what I become now. Am I frustrated that I didn't become a psychiatrist? I was but then I learned, all of the time, in our life, things happen for a reason. We should look back into our memory lane, only we can see that every single incident that happened in our past, had a reason behind it and it make sense now.. why this and that happened the way it happened and sometimes not according to our wishes and wants. We would not be able to see the rationale at that particular time (the time that the 'things' happened). But if we be patient, have faith in God. Redha. Let him do his agenda. Wait. Not far in the future, we will be looking back and say... ohhhh... that's why, luckily it happened that way. I wouldn't know that this way was better. At least that is my believe. Make sense? Up to you.

When the reality came to the surface that I was not going to be accepted into the medical school, regardless of all the efforts me and Wan did - appeal, private university search (no private college offering medical course at that time), etc, etc.. I accept His will that I am not going to be a medical doctor. Period. This was after hours to days to months of counseling, advising, giving spirit and motivation from my great beloved Mama, without being tired or fed-up! Thank you mama! You have always been there when I needed you the most! Thanks for the prayers too!!

I then graduated my pharmacy degree in 1996. That was the year I met my soulmate. There you go... His agenda was there. If I were to be a medical student, I wouldn't be graduated that year and would have not meet my fate that way. Anyway, I enjoyed very much being a pharmacist... But I felt like not fully satisfied... thats it? This is too ordinary. I want something more. More challenging. After getting the blessings from Honey and family, went university hunting for doing MBA and finally I got 3 offers from three different universities. I chose UiTM, Machang because I don't have to travel to KL for attending the classes (the other 2 were in KL). It was a challenging 2 1/2 years... a 2 1/2 years of sacrifice, hard work, sacrifice and hard work..... the situation was tough for me.. I had to juggle between managing a company, being a wife and at the same time an MBA student... and, MBA needs a lot of readings, research, presentations and project papers.. Isn't it Ayeh (Farikh Hamshi)? But with support, love and prayer from all, I successfully graduated in May 2004.

On my graduation day (MBA), I already had in mind that I want to taste the sweetness of the PhD land... By hook or by crook, I have to take the adventure to the PhD land! Out of the blue, a friend of mine who was the Head of Department at the Faculty of Pharmacy, IIU, Kuantan invited me to teach Pharmacy Management subject in her university. I was a little reluctant because I kinda have society phobia.. Meaning that, I am shy to talk and give lecture in front of a group of people. This was my biggest weakness. But then, I learned that the only way to handle a weakness is to deal with it. So, I dealt with my fear and before I could even remember, I became an invited lecturer in IIU, teaching Pharmacy Management. I started to like teaching. At the same time, I still manage my business and practice as a community pharmacist. I also got a few invitations to teach the same subject in UiTM and pharmacy practice in UKM.

To cut story short, after facing a few hurdles, I finally registered as a PhD in Pharmacy student, by research - part time at UiTM on December 2004. Big thanks to my cousin, Wan Hasmadi for helping me throughout my studentship. My supervisor was Prof Dr Abu Bakar Abdul Majeed and my superb co-supervisor was Assoc Prof Dr Lua Pei Lin. They were both superb and fantastic. They made my PhD experience interesting and bareable. And the adventure to the PhD land started....

My research initially was to study and measure the ethical practice level among the Community Pharmacist in Malaysia and to see if there is any intervention can be done to enhance the ethical practice level. Well... I am not going to dive into the technical details here.. I will definitely eat you brains out if I do so!! You're not going to read about the literature review, methodology, Pharmacoethics, statistical analysis, p value, statistically significant, APA style reference, validity, reliability, Hypotheses, Null-Hypotheses, t-test, Anova, Kruskal Wallis test, Mann-Whitney U (not Whitney Houston ok!), Factor Analysis, test-retest, .. and the list goes on and on and on and on and on............... Nope. I am just going to share my challenges and experience. Not my 200 over pages of thesis (show off!! sorry..). Don't worry..

At this time, I hold three jobs - a community pharmacist and a business owner, a lecturer and a PhD student and not to forget, my responsibility as a wife and to the society. It was heavy. Not bearable sometimes. At some point through the journey, I felt I bite more than I can chew....

The first biggest challenge was to get the pharmacists' participation in the pilot study. But with the help of my pharmacists friends, Oleen and Faiz, by using their networking, I succeeded the task. It was a lot of work to be done. I thought it was easy but it was nothing near to easy. But possible. I made it possible because I have a bunch of great cousins helping me with some of the process... If Wan Hasmadi, Oleen, Fieky Hamshi and Fadhlan Hamshi didn't help me... I don't know what would I do and I am certainly sure the process would be longer to complete. Thanks guys!

I faced a few tragic events of my life during the adventure. The biggest one was I lost my baby @ 26 weeks. I got demotivated and set-back.... I still remember the day of the tragedy.. It was the day that I had to attend the compulsory statistical analysis class.. a full day of brain and energy... I drove by myself to SA and everything happened that day, all in a sudden.. the next day, we lost our boy (thanks Kak Faz for visiting us that night!)... I went in my own in-denial world at the beginning and later into depression and blaming myself for what had happened. I couldn't accept it. I got all the support, sympathy and care from my Honey and family. But deep inside me, the cut was still bleeding and painful. I couldn't let it go and move on. Luckily, during that painful period, God sent me someone, her name is Poey Poey. She had faced the same experience that I faced. So, she understood really well my pain and agony and the guilty feelings inside me.. She was my shoulder to cry on at that time. Any time of the day, when I called her, she answered my call and listened to me tirelessly until I felt better and one of her advice which woke me up from my own nightmare... she said, "God has a duty for you in this world, search for it". I don't know why, I snapped and woke up. And thanks God, He didn't let me (and Honey) to be sad long. He quickly replaced our boy with Suri, the best replacement that we could get, ever!

The next biggest hurdle was I couldn't do the interventional study we planned. After a year, only 2 responded to our study. We need at least 200. At that time, I was 3 1/2 years in the study and initially I planned to finish it within 3 years!! I need to finish this PhD!!!! I suddenly got an idea. We were going to the States for my Honey's study for 6 months. So, I thought, that's it! I am going to compare Malaysia and the States, using the same instrument. So, that was what I did, we went around USA, East to West, with Suri on the stroller, I approached the community pharmacists to participate in my research and experienced being scolded, chased out from the pharmacy, but also a lot gave their co-operation which made my research successful and all that, I did either with Suri on the stroller or Honey and Suri waiting outside the pharmacy... What an experience!

The next hurdle, when I came back home from the States, I had to present my progress report to UiTM. Sadly, I was skinned alive in the torture room. They criticize my 4 years of work. The problem was, they were not the people in the same line of my research. I did quantitative social research and they were lab and clinical researcher... of course they wouldn't understand and appreciate my piece of work. The worse thing, which made my supervisors unhappy and disappointed with them when one of them whisper in my ear after I finished the presentation, "the examiner will just throw your thesis in the dustbin!".. Hey! You crossed the line man... and burnt the bridge! War declared!! I mean common, so, if my work was not worth it, what were my supervisors doing? At this point, I already won 2 medals locally and internationally for my research and also presented it locally and internationally (Japan and Australia). Just because you didn't do the same thing we were doing, doesn't mean that our job has no value and yours are better! But I was determined. I was confident. My piece of work worth a PhD! And later, I proved that they were WRONG!!

The final and most challenging and difficult step was thesis write up... Arrgghhh... read read read and write write write.. I remember, I had to lock myself in our study room for nearly a year for the whole process! Pity Suri and Honey.. I just came out from the room to sleep, cook and play for 1 hour with Suri. The rest.. work in progress...But I had a few buddy who accompany me online when I was bored or tired. One of them was AD (Snubnosse). Thanks AD layan me... Also not to forget, thanks my research assistant, Fizah. She motivated me with my writings, without even realizing it. Oppss... sorry, becoming acknowledgement chapter.... Back to story, I started writing in June 2009 and submitted my first thesis draft to my supervisors in Sep 2009. He was not too happy with it. I was requested to rewrite 70% of the thesis and change 50% of the literature cited to a newer literature. I was suppose to at least read and cite 200 literatures/books/etc... Adoilaa adoilaaa (ouch ouch).. Nak selops dah ni (almost fainting).... At that time, I have a workload of a giant!!! From my company and CUCMS (the uni I work with as Senior Lecturer) and I really felt like OMAIGODDD!!! HELPPP!!!... like that...

Finally, my final work piece was ready! After being revamped and reviewed a few times by myself and my two supervisors... At this time, I felt like vomiting green (beraso nak muntah hijau), I submitted the full thesis for defend on Mar 2010. They called me to defend it on the 1st September 2010. My examiners were from UMS, University of Auckland and UiTM.

The VIVA day..... My supervisor was in the room. I felt confident. I was prepared with all the bullets to defend my thesis, my research. I left Suri with Kak Faz and Dira (thanks). The battle started.. I felt comfy in Jay-Jay's blazer (thanks JJ for lending me your wedding gift blazer to be used in that day). I presented well. Conclusion: all of the examiners were impressed by my work especially the USA parts. They said it must have been tough and costly for me to perform the study. I said yes. After questions and answers sessions, the chairman ask me and my supervisor to go out of the room for them to discuss about my verdict. After 10 miserable minutes, we were called back into the room.

The VERDICT: "On behalf of the examiners and UiTM, we all agreed that you are qualified to be awarded a Doctor of Philosophy in Pharmacy degree with minor amendments to your thesis" read the chairman. Congratulations!! And all of them, including the examiners, raise on their feet and congratulate me... Congrats DR W SAZRINA W ZAID! (Abe Deen said, they stand because I am automatically becoming one of them already and its a gesture of welcoming me to the club!). And me... still in shock and overdose of adrenaline.. is this true? I passed? I passed? And they all said, YES!!! You PASSED DR WAN!! Alhamdulillah.. Finally!! Its all over! Lihatlah dunia! Lihatlah dunia! Thank you to both my superb supervisors, everyone in the family and friends for all the support, sacrifice, prayers and motivation!!! I finally end my adventure and reach my destination, the PhD land!!

So... now you are a DR... I thought to myself, what next?.. Hrmmmm ... Bo bo lah! Pade la tuh!!


Friday, April 8, 2011

I Want to Be a GREAT Person


"I want to be a GREAT person!!"

I want to be a great person to be with. I want to be great in whatever I do. I want to be a great daughter. I want to be a great mother. I want to be a great wife. I want to be a great friend. I want to be a great teacher. I want to be a great family member. I want to be a great businesswoman. I just want to be great. I want people to feel great when they are with me. I want my existence in one's life, makes him/her feels great. I want to achieve the extraordinary because ordinary is not good enough for me. So God, please help me. Guide me and make it easy for me.

My idol, Wan (my Dad) wrote me a poem and in that poem, there were two sentences which inspired me a lot.... "Hanya yang cekal akan berjaya - Only the determined person will be successful" and "Kemanisan pada penerimaanmu jua - the sweetness of life is depends on how you take it". So, I want to be a determined person and will always enjoy the sweetness of my life.

I promise Wan, I will be determined in whatever I do and if I ever fall or being hurt while doing it, I will stand back on my two feet fast. I will try to heal fast. I will never give up. I will keep on trying, unless it is already fated to be that way. I will not let hurdles lead my life. I will strive to be able to lead my life the way I want it, not the way the limitations that I have limit me. I will limit the limitations. I will make sure nothing stop me on my way to success. I will never let what others think about me or do to me, pull me down from my climb to be great. Whatever people think about me is their problem, not mine. I also promise to see this world positively and will be optimistic in whatever I do. I will try not to be hurt easily and enjoy the sweetness of life instead of complaining of the bitterness. I will love the people in my life abundantly and make them feel that they are being loved in that way.

I know I can be a GREAT person because I have GREAT people around me who I love and who love me! Thank you to all of you for being in my life!!! You are all GREAT people! I am lucky to have all of you in my life!!




My Trip to Maturity - Very Young ~ Part I


Cute, shy, girly, polite and clumsy... that was me, very young me.... Mama told me, when we were living in Philippines, I was 5 years old, I was a very cute, shy and polite... Because of my cuteness, I made Mama's shopping day easy. How? Mama told me that, because of my cuteness (I don't mind repeating this over and over again throughout this post!), whenever she goes shopping, the shopkeeper will play, carry and kiss me (euuwww!!) and Mama could do her shopping 'peacefully' (now that I have a little active princess of my own, I know what she meant by that - shopping 'peacefully'!). I am sure, some of this blog readers who know me are smiling now at the words 'girly and polite'... but believe me, I was girly and polite... at least for a short while, until I was influenced with the boys around me....., so do not blame me for that... hee hee... (** Don't wonder why I put the satay picture.. I was hungry when I wrote this post!! **)

But polite.. YESS... I am till now...and talking about being clumsy, I remember.. whenever we went to any shops selling glass or glass ware, Mama will keep on warning me to be careful not to break anything.. I didn't keep track, how many glasses I already broke or damage... I am sorry Mama! I hope it didn't cost you a fortune.. Also when we were in parties or people's house, I sometimes (I repeat, sometimes OK, not always!!) dropped glasses or plates here and there or spilled the food or drinks from my plate/glass... until once, in a party, someone else's kid dropped his plate and Mama from other corner of the room shouted "Dek Zie!!!" and I said "It wasn't me!!"... since then, I didn't remember anymore act of 'major' clumsiness from my side, just minor ones-lah... and I think this clumsiness is a bit contagious.. Anyway, I healed at least 95% from being clumsy now... yehaaaa....

When I grew older, in the primary school years... a transformer came to visit me and.... transformed me from cute, shy and polite to cute (still - this will remain), not so shy, tom-boy-ish (no more girly - my clothes were only t-shirts and shorts) but still polite... Half of my primary school years were in PJ - Sekolah Rendah Kebangsaan Sultan Alam Shah 1 and the rest were in KB - Sekolah Rendah Kebangsaan Zainab 1. I was appointed as the head of the class when I was in standard three. Whenever the class teacher asked me to monitor the class and to make sure the students were not making any noise, I would take three rulers, one plastic, one steel and one wood, put on top of each other and whoever made any noise, will be beaten by me on their hand (this was an act of torture! how come the teacher let me do it? - still blaming others huh??). And usually the class will be very quite till even you can hear if a book fell on the floor (of course! meaning: not so quiet laaa).

I also got dog-phobia during this age period. Wanna know how? One day, while walking to school, I saw a dog with one broken leg, across the street in front of our house and the street was very busy, a.k.a. full of cars.. There will be no way the dog could cross such a busy street, furthermore, the dog was having difficulties walking, kek-chah kek-chah... So, I wanted to test the trivia that "Don't run in front of a dog because it will chase you!". What I did was, I ran up and down the street (ni belan-belan nak gi school ni! sempat lagi buat eksperimen!) till the dog from across the street saw me... I thought to myself that it would never able to cross the street to chase me. But to my shock, as soon as the dog saw me running, it made it way crossed the street and started to chase me, very fast!! So, with adrenaline pump on, as fast as I could, as the Kelantanese say "Kecik ppalo ppalo!!" I ran towards our house and the dog did chase me till in front of our house door!! I was lucky at that time coz the gate and the house door were still not locked!! So, since then, I TOBAT NASUHA, I won't play-play anymore in front of a dog and I am really scared of dog now.. even if I heard the word DOG, I will start to shiver and my whole body shakes (please don't believe this part, just dramatization - over acting!!)

When I was in standard four, we had to move back to KB from PJ. So, since then, we lived in Berek 12 till now. It was a wooden house. My activity in KB changed and became more adventurous since all of my same age-age range cousins are boys.. and my best play buddies at that time were Abang Lan and Asri. We usually went in the big drain in front of my house, catching peacock fish or puyu or sepat. What happened was, either Asri or Abg Lan will go in the drain first, to help me from down in the drain and the other one help me from up of the drain. During rainy season, we could catch a lot of fighter fish 'ikan spilla' or 'ikan kkaghing' and I will arrange it separately in bottles with paper in between because they will fight if they see each other... It was so much fun!! I am sure Abg Lan remembers this.

Another activity was bicycle riding. My bicycle riding buddy were Hawari (now Dr Hawari) and Asri. I rode the bicycle in many acts... sometimes with one tire in the air.. without holding the handles, etc etc.. It was sooooo much fun!! One day, we went around our neighborhood.. We went like in a round. In one of the lane, there was a big lorry parked in the middle of the lane and the doors were opened. As I was trying to pass it, my bicycle handle hit the door and bum! I fell in the drain with my bicycle. I was so embarrassed at that time. So, I acted as if I fainted. The workers took my bicycle out of the drain and put it on the street. When they came to carry me out of the drain, I as fast as possible, grab my bicycle and cycled super-fast... I also made Hawari (he is 1 year younger than me) to perform a stunt with the bicycle, where I put a wood on some stacked bricks and he cycled on it, fly a bit in the air and landed on his face on the tar!! Ugghhh.. it was quite a bloody one.. So, if know Hawari, look at his nose, near his lips, you can see the fine scar of our childhood memories together!! Hee hee hee...

Eventhough I was a bit (a bit ok, not so much!) naughty and playful, I still excel in my study. I never put my study aside. My aim was always to succeed in my education. I got straight As in the Penilaian Darjah Lima.. Not bad huh? Nope.. it was good!!!

But I lost my grandparents (WCJ), both of them when I was 10, year 1982. I was quite close to Tok Wae and Che.. I used to go the Kg Sireh and played and talked to them, a lot. My buddy playing together-gether was Linda. We are same age. Linda, do you remember we played together?.. It happened so fast and sudden. Their love to each other was the example of real true love human can have. They both got sick at almost the same time and they both didn't know that their other half had passed away. This is what callled "Sehidup dn Semati!".. I respected them for this and for bringing up my idol very well, a.k.a my Dad. May they rest in peace... Al-Fatihah...

--- TBC - Part II ---

Thursday, April 7, 2011

A Note Dedicated to late Wan Zainol Ashikeen Wan Abdullah, a.k.a Cik Nor


My tears just keep on dropping and my mind just keep on playing repeatedly the memories I had with arwah Cik Nor... Owh.. how much I miss her lately.. I just don't know why... I just know that I missed her sooo much... May her soul rest in peace among the chosen one in Jannah...

Let me talk about her... From what I remember.... She was a person who cares about others so much until she put aside her own troubles or worries... She was such a great listener and problem solver that all her niece and nephews or even her brothers and sisters came to her when they have troubles, problems or worries in their life. She will try her very best to solve people's problem, in any way she could.. anyway that you could think of... The least was by hugging her and just cry on her shoulder and she would pat on your back and said "everything will be ok... just cry and let it go... it will be ok... don't worry.." and believe me, she won't stop there. She would gather all her resources, anything at all, to help solving the problems.

She loved her family so much and we always talk and discussed about it whenever we met. Usually among her, me and Cik Ja. We will just sit and talk hours and hours on how to unite our big family.. How to make the younger generations respect and recognize the older generation. We came out with different ideas and initially, we organized a family gathering with a lot of activities just to make everyone in the family close to each other and feel and appreciate each other's existence....after the gathering, we would all shake hands, kiss and hug each other in the family... and that particular event became a tradition in WCJ - Wan Love till now... and hope the younger generations will uphold it forever... I also still remember that we published a so called "Bulletin WCJ" where we had all the news and activities and gossips about the family members and now being replaced by "WCJ Web" due to technology changes in the world... We have to follow the tech rite? (selingan sikit).

When I was in Iran, she called me and we talked sometimes for hours... She really loved her kids very much! Her kids will wear the best clothes and got the best attention from her... She was like the super-mom for her kids and super-wife for Ayah Din.. I know that she did all the errands and also the financial manager for her family.. All the time, she told me how much they wanted another daughter, not that she didn't love her sons and daughter, in fact she loved them more than anything in the world, just they wanted for another one, another girl... and finally, one day, she called me happily to say that she was pregnant and this time, a girl! And the excitement goes on and on every-time we talked or write emails... And then, the time came... her labour moments...

I was already in Malaysia, I talked to her via the phone the night before she went for the labour.. She told me that she felt afraid and nervous to go to the labour this time and didn't know why.. She also said that she had so much problems (other people's, not hers) which hasn't settled and how much she wanted settled all and clear her mind and just forget about everything.. I told her that she's gonna be alright just don't think about anything... and she's gonna come out from the labour safe with her new baby girl in her hands, I promise!... But it didn't happen that way. God had different agenda for her. Something terrible had happened, and that something took her away FOREVER from all of us and from her kids.... and she didn't even had the chance to see her baby girl.... During the labour, her brain didn't receive the oxygen supply for 3 -5 minutes and she suffered from brain death and all that we know, she went into coma and deep sleep for a very long time (until the time she was taken from us).

After sometime, we brought her back to her hometown, Kampung Sireh and everyone in the WCJ family, took their turn to take care of her.. from bathing, to cleaning, to feeding, to doing suction from her airway, everything.... We all did it because of our love for her... Everyone in the family volunteered, and not even a single exclusion. The one who lives in KL came back to KB during their turn to take care of her... We were all hoping for her to get better and open her eyes again.. but God loves her more than us.... He one day, Ease Cik Nor from her sufferings and took her to be with Him in Jannah (I strongly believe so)...

She was one of the greatest human being who I ever knew and she left a very big hole in my heart and in the hearts that she loved / loved her when she went to her final destination... Till now, the hole is still there and no one can replace her in my heart coz she was very special to me.... You were like everybody's best friend and were always there for us... Cik Nor, may you rest in peace and I LOVE YOU!! Al-Fatihah...

This song is dedicated to her....